Unless you call out, who will open the door? – Ethiopian Proverb
Why do we find it so hard to ask for help when we need it?
Why do we sit and contemplate every other possible option before asking for help?
Why are we more willing to help others, but cannot ask for help for ourselves?
I have been guilty of this and understand there are many reasons why people do not like the idea of asking for help.
Whether it is a fear of being rejected by the person you asked for help, a fear of being a failure, or incompetent. A fear of owing someone, fear of depending on others, or being judged. A negative experience or simply your pride is stopping you from being vulnerable and asking for help.
Everyone has their own personal reasons as to why they do not like asking for help, however by not asking for help you inevitably block your own progress and development. You will be stuck in a cycle of needing help but not asking for it until you reach breaking point, and in the end, you have no choice but to ask for help.
You need to understand that the same energy and support you give to others you should expect and welcome back, help is always at hand in every situation, so there is no need to suffer in silence.
There are approximately 7billion people in the world, each person has their own set of unique skills, talents, and abilities. But there is not a single person in the world who can do everything, who can carry every load, or harness every skill and ability- it is impossible. So why put that burden on yourself?
There are many things you can do, that others cannot, and there are many things others can do, that you cannot.
So, when you are in a situation where you need help, understand the following:
The first person you ask may not be able to help you, so have the courage to ask someone else, you will find the right person in the end. Note that there will be things you do not know or understand, but life is about learning and growing. The people around you can teach many valuable lessons if you just ask for help.
Understand that it is an instinct for people to help others, and most people are more than willing to do so. Everyone needs a shoulder to lean on from time to time, and even the most independent people have a support system and mentors they can go to for help and advice. It is okay to try and figure things out on your own, but if you have tried and failed, then it is time for you to seek help and guidance from another source. At one stage in everyone’s life, they have had to ask for help, you are not alone, and no one can judge you.
There is nothing wrong with being proud and having pride in yourself. But if your pride blocks your progress then simply push it to the side and ask for help.
Remember there is someone you can call on for help, who is guaranteed to answer.
If you have a fear of asking people in general for help, you can turn to God the creator, or the universe as you refer to it. Who will give you the strength and courage to ask for help and provide you with the right people to open the doors you have not been able to open by yourself.
I have spoken about manifesting things into existence and into your life before; so, if you need help, all you must do is open your mouth and ask, your request will be answered.
Ask for help when you need it, call out and the right people will hear you, they will help you open the door. But if you do not, you will be left stuck behind that door forever, waiting and blaming others for not helping.
Affirmation: I ask for help when I need it, I am open and ready to receive all that I need.
Written By: Kesi Steven
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